Wednesday, May 15, 2013

Being aware of their personality quirks and working with them

 Just lately I was reminded of something that we have faced in our marriage and I am sure others may have as well. It is something that at times has caused discord but as we learn to know and appreciate each other better we can work with this issue.

  The issue in our marriage is different personality traits concerning making decisions. I tend to make fairly quick decisions on most things while Ken on the other hand will sometimes take a lot of time to make a decision about things. Sometimes to be honest I have thought the things that he has pondered over for days to be something so simple and unimportant that I would have decided it instantly.

  In many ways I am grateful for his cautious decision making, I think that has probably provided great balance to our relationship. We are a team for a purpose - so we can work together and balance each other.

  However, at times I have found it very frustrating. What I have learned am learning to do is to try to give him ample of advance warning we I can, so that he can have ample time to make his decisions without me having to feel like the opportunity is going to be completely lost. I am also learning to present the thought to him, leave him to ponder it for a day or so and then come back to him. It isn't a good idea to be a nagging wife - and I want to avoid that!

"A constant dripping on a day of steady rain and a contentious woman are alike;" Proverbs 27:15

That is just some thoughts on how we have made things work in our marriage. I don't know if anyone else is facing similar circumstances or maybe it is some other personality trait that you are complete opposites in - maybe with that you can learn to appreciate and work with your spouse even through your differences.


Sheila said...

On reading this, I immediately thought of the time when I went to Walmart with my husband and left him looking at the one item he needed (for which there were a total of 3 options). I did the family grocery shopping for the week (probably 50 items or so), and came back to find him STILL trying to decide on his one item! LOL! Fortunately, we are not normally so disparate in our decision making, so it's not one of our bigger struggles, but I definitely try to shop without him when it's not something we need to buy together.

Erin said...

Thanks for being open and honest, Abbi. I appreciate you sharing about this. I definitely needed the encouragement today. Quite a few personality issues between my husband and I seem to be coming to light lately, and I'm having a hard time dealing with them, but your post gave me some hope.


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